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{November 28, 2007}   Porn: the Anti-Unsafe-Sex Drug

It’s true, no one has ever been infected by more than a dirty idea or two from porn – and even then, the ideas tend to be, well, as a pirate might put it, more along the lines of suggestions. Personally I’ve never been all that big a fan of the video format – much more of a literary person, and give me a copy of “The Way of a Man with a Maid” before “the Fashionistas” any day. However, as a videographer and a sexual activist I do find porn entertaining from a cultural and technically challenging standpoint. I’m fascinated by the ways they try to blend plot and titillation (sometimes) and the way they don’t (such as Tristam Taormino’s Chemistry series, which I’m really curious to see).

Audacia Ray Reviews the Berlin Porn Festival in Eros ZineAudacia Ray, one of the top five people I’ve never met but would like to, has written up an interesting account of the Berlin Porn Festival in the new Eros Zine. One of the surprising things coming out of the town that inspired Sally Bowles is this:

“Apparently, it is still 1985 in Europe — there are still a lot of arguments about whether or not women want to see porn and whether or not women enjoy blowjobs. Some of the audience members were really really concerned about the blowjob issue and wanted answers, dammit! How can blowjob giving and filming of blowjobs be a feminist thing if it’s all about pleasing a man?”

I’ve been lucky enough to be involved almost exclusively with people who enjoy fellatio, but I can understand certainly why some might not like it. But why would they then try and put that preference on others? It boggles the mind…any other sex acts that are considered “un-feminist”? Or how about “un-masculine”? Personally, if the goal is pleasure, I figure that as long as there’s consent (or consensual non-consent) anything goes. Am I being chauvinist from thinking that?

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tddog says:

Cunnilingus is clearly feminist… Missionary ain’t, but on all fours can’t be either. Being tied up is definitely a symbol of female bondage–I mean…

The way I see it, you can own something, or you can let other people explain away the pleasure that you find in it with guilt-trips based on *their* preferences.



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