Comments on: Bringing It Up Gracefully http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/ getting it on...together. Fri, 14 Dec 2007 00:45:38 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Easily Aroused » Sugasm #107 - apologies for the lateness… http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-33 Easily Aroused » Sugasm #107 - apologies for the lateness… Wed, 12 Dec 2007 22:25:57 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-33 [...] Advice Bringing It Up Gracefully I Don’t Need Porn, I Get Real Sex! Prince Albert for [...] [...] Advice Bringing It Up Gracefully I Don’t Need Porn, I Get Real Sex! Prince Albert for [...]

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]]> By: Sugasm #107 « Sweat Shop Sissy http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-29 Sugasm #107 « Sweat Shop Sissy Wed, 28 Nov 2007 13:29:33 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-29 [...] Advice Bringing It Up Gracefully I Don’t Need Porn, I Get Real Sex! Prince Albert for [...] [...] Advice Bringing It Up Gracefully I Don’t Need Porn, I Get Real Sex! Prince Albert for [...]

]]> By: Designing Intimacy » Blog Archive » Sugasm #107 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-28 Designing Intimacy » Blog Archive » Sugasm #107 Tue, 27 Nov 2007 15:41:34 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-28 [...] Advice Bringing It Up Gracefully I Don’t Need Porn, I Get Real Sex! Prince Albert for [...] [...] Advice Bringing It Up Gracefully I Don’t Need Porn, I Get Real Sex! Prince Albert for [...]

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]]> By: Safer Sex | Rita Seagrave http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-23 Safer Sex | Rita Seagrave Mon, 26 Nov 2007 00:00:49 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-23 [...] unsafe sex. Did you really want unsafe sex? No. But the language of unsafe sex is hot. “You don’t need a condom. Don’t you trust me, baby?” and “Don’t pull out. I want your cum inside me.” What happened afterwards? [...] [...] unsafe sex. Did you really want unsafe sex? No. But the language of unsafe sex is hot. “You don’t need a condom. Don’t you trust me, baby?” and “Don’t pull out. I want your cum inside me.” What happened afterwards? [...]

]]> By: herpes » Blog Archive » Bringing It Up Gracefully http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-19 herpes » Blog Archive » Bringing It Up Gracefully Wed, 21 Nov 2007 22:57:48 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-19 [...] The Muse Amused wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerpt … ou know, a while back I had a partner with herpes, and even though we were always very careful, and I never showed symptoms of any kind, I felt I had to tell people t…” OK, that’s harsh. And hypocritical; I was one of those people who put a huge stigma on herpes for a long time, and it took a patient partner to educate me on the realities of the i ssue…. [...] [...] The Muse Amused wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerpt … ou know, a while back I had a partner with herpes, and even though we were always very careful, and I never showed symptoms of any kind, I felt I had to tell people t…” OK, that’s harsh. And hypocritical; I was one of those people who put a huge stigma on herpes for a long time, and it took a patient partner to educate me on the realities of the i ssue…. [...]

]]> By: Sukima http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-18 Sukima Wed, 21 Nov 2007 17:48:58 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-18 Minx: I love that idea. Now the only challenge is to get girls to do that! I think I must live in the most ass backwards hick town in the world. I have never in my life met a girl who would do that! (Then again I haven't met a girl who gives blow jobs either. Wow my life sucks!) Anyway. I think if we can get the word out. educate women and men how not only to have safer sex but how to make it fun! I hate the stigma that the guy has to turn around put it on and then turn back around. Your going to become very intimate if you haven't already. So why covet the process. Embrace it together. Bond together in everything. Imagine how sexy it is to the guy to know that his safe sex practices are part of the mating ritual and not some aside he has to do a fast as possible. Girls love it when guys undress them. Guys love it wen girls unzip their pants. These are require parts of the mating ritual that in most cases are shared. Why is the condom any different?It all adds up to preparation anticipation. Minx: I love that idea. Now the only challenge is to get girls to do that! I think I must live in the most ass backwards hick town in the world. I have never in my life met a girl who would do that! (Then again I haven’t met a girl who gives blow jobs either. Wow my life sucks!) Anyway.

I think if we can get the word out. educate women and men how not only to have safer sex but how to make it fun! I hate the stigma that the guy has to turn around put it on and then turn back around. Your going to become very intimate if you haven’t already. So why covet the process. Embrace it together. Bond together in everything. Imagine how sexy it is to the guy to know that his safe sex practices are part of the mating ritual and not some aside he has to do a fast as possible.

Girls love it when guys undress them. Guys love it wen girls unzip their pants. These are require parts of the mating ritual that in most cases are shared. Why is the condom any different?It all adds up to preparation anticipation.

]]> By: A Quickie, Before We Go Back to Condom Stuff « Hot Safer Sex http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-17 A Quickie, Before We Go Back to Condom Stuff « Hot Safer Sex Wed, 21 Nov 2007 14:30:56 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-17 [...] had a great post that I really can’t summarize here; I’d suggest you go to the comments and read it if you haven’t. One thing that I really took from that is the idea that “RISK TOLERANCE [...] [...] had a great post that I really can’t summarize here; I’d suggest you go to the comments and read it if you haven’t. One thing that I really took from that is the idea that “RISK TOLERANCE [...]

]]> By: Minx http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-16 Minx Wed, 21 Nov 2007 13:44:27 +0000 http://hotsafersex.wordpress.com/2007/11/20/bringing-it-up-gracefully/#comment-16 I've definitely heard the "I can't come that way," both with oral and PIV sex. Really, that should've sent me flying in the other direction, because that would mean that the guy(s) in question would have regularly had oral or PIV sex without condoms, right? One good thing about being poly is that most of the people I see tend to have already had the safer sex debate with their partners, so there's not a lot of fuss over it. Personally, I've never had sex without condoms, and I never will--not once, not ever. In terms of the actual mechanics of putting the condom on, I learned early on that putting on the condom was my job (it's polite and kinda sexy), and I always give a little extra head before putting it on the guy. It's fun for me, fun for him, and it also get the cock all nice and slippery for the condom to go on nicely. Everyone is happy! In fact, I'm trying to figure out how that is NOT sexy, compared to, say gonorrhea. I’ve definitely heard the “I can’t come that way,” both with oral and PIV sex. Really, that should’ve sent me flying in the other direction, because that would mean that the guy(s) in question would have regularly had oral or PIV sex without condoms, right?

One good thing about being poly is that most of the people I see tend to have already had the safer sex debate with their partners, so there’s not a lot of fuss over it. Personally, I’ve never had sex without condoms, and I never will–not once, not ever.

In terms of the actual mechanics of putting the condom on, I learned early on that putting on the condom was my job (it’s polite and kinda sexy), and I always give a little extra head before putting it on the guy. It’s fun for me, fun for him, and it also get the cock all nice and slippery for the condom to go on nicely. Everyone is happy! In fact, I’m trying to figure out how that is NOT sexy, compared to, say gonorrhea.

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